My new sounds:
To fall in love
Is a maddening illusion
I am wake at an ungodly hour again
I decide to go outside, to see the moon and the stars
Due to random chance, I run into you, another like me
We both look at each other, than to the moon, and we know
We are of the same mind
We sing, we discuss, we laugh, we dance
Life is a big joke, a test of your mettle
You can’t win in life
But that is the key to winning in life
To understand that life is hard
That people have no control
and that reality is dependent on you
Just take it as it comes
"It is what it is"
Zen words from a master Buddha
The “Pornification” Of Society
For those of you who watched the TV show Friends back in the day, you’ll remember the episode when Chandler and Joey stumble upon free porn on their TV. They comically spend all of their free time watching it and refuse to turn off the TV for fear of losing the signal to the free porn.
Watching that episode now, it seems kind of sad and pathetic. Little did Joey and Chandler know that they were putting the spotlight on a growing problem in society. But at the time it wasn’t a huge issue and got a laugh when it premiered back in the late 90’s.
Unfortunately, the normalization of porn, the “pornification” of our media, has grown exponentially since then.
We are so surrounded by this pornification in today’s popular culture that it’s hard to even recognize what we are actually hearing or seeing. If you look at the most popular shows on television, the most popular songs on iTunes, and the most popular movies in theaters, you’ll find content and subject matter that if you applied to reality, you would never mess with it.
It’s so crazy to think that things that were once totally unheard of, are now widely accepted, embraced, created, and promoted on social media daily.
Here’s an interesting example of that:
You know the old 70’s TV show The Brady Bunch, right? In several episodes of the show, the Brady’s are shown getting ready in their bathroom, brushing their teeth, combing their hair, etc. Normal right? But one thing was always noticeably missing from the bathroom:
Yes, it was a toilet-less bathroom. The reason? The network that aired The Brady Bunch censored the show by not allowing it to show a toilet on their popularly televised program. It was seen as inappropriate. Tacky. In bad taste.
Now fast forward to today.
The things that are now commonplace on regular daytime television would make Mr. and Mrs. Brady’s heads explode.
The problem here lies in the blurring of the lines between entertainment in the media and pornography. Porn is bleeding into every single aspect of our lives, contributing to the objectification of the human body, rape culture, and basic desensitization to sexual material.
When we are all surrounded by this pornification in society, it’s easy to get lost in it and find it hard to see what it really means. This societal shift warps ideas and perceptions, such as the idea that women are here to please men, and that the human body is an object, separate from thoughts, emotions, and feelings a person may have.
Porn culture is becoming an living and breathing issue. According to the website Stop Porn Culture, studies show that after men view porn, they are more likely to have decreased empathy for rape victims (not cool), believe that a woman who dresses provocatively deserves to be raped, have anger at women who flirt but don’t have sex (similar to the recent disturbing Santa Barbara shooting), and report increased interest in coercing partners into unwanted sex acts.
This gray area that’s been created in the mainstream media is totally and completely widespread. Stop Porn Culture's website asks us to consider these problems: “While mainstream pop culture grows increasingly pornographic, the pornography industry produces hardcore material that is both more overtly cruel toward women and more widely accepted than ever. Have you ever tried to talk about this issue, only to be told that you’re a prude, or that pornography is liberating? What will happen now that the first generation of men raised on Internet porn is making its way into adulthood?”
Good point. And scary thought.
After reading our recent blog post on Fifty Shades of Grey, you’re probably all aware that the trailer release of the upcoming movie has already made massive waves. Many are outraged with the graphic sexual material in the books and the upcoming film. Dawn Hawkins of Porn Harms said that while some Americans may not realize it, bondage, dominance, and sadomasochism are a huge part of mainstream pornography. And they have been for quite a while.
Knowing that, it’s pretty mind blowing to think that this movie is ironically most highly anticipated by women, the same gender as the recipient of all the violent and disturbing sexual acts in the book.
Pornographic media and entertainment is a massive step backwards for equality due to the fact that in almost all porn, men are portrayed as dominant and women submissive, treating humans as nothing more than discardable objects to be acted upon.
As pornography influences everyday media and the objectification of humans, especially women, it only gets stronger and contributes to not just porn culture, but rape culture as well.
We are smarter than that. We don’t need to accept the pornification of our society.
Be better than porn culture.
Be smarter. Be cooler.
Don’t be pornified.
“The warm halo of the red tubes, the perpetually alert stance of the assailant, the victim’s momentary fringe of disheveled hair. How sad that the second silhouette must inevitably fall to that two-by-four, but how encouraging that he inevitably finds the wherewithal to pick himself up again.”